Monday, September 28, 2009

Endings- What's your preference?

Current Project: Christmas Redemption
Status: Chapter 4
Our oldest daughter was here on Friday night. We couldn’t find a good TV show to watch so she scrounged through our dvds and said, "Oh this is a great movie. Have you watched it yet?" ( I tend to buy the $5 movies at Wally World that I've heard are good and then they sit because we don't have time to watch them) We hadn't seen the movie. It was a good movie, it kept my dh awake, which is not the norm. This time of year he is sound asleep in his chair an hour after the sun goes down.

But the ending and one other scene…I have never cried twice in a movie. And my dh was crying, blubbering at the end of the movie. Any guesses what it was?


I'd been warned the ending was sad, one reason I hadn't watched it yet. I don’t like leaving a movie or a book on a sad note. My daughter said it was a bitter/sweet ending. Which is true, but I think if I'd watched it at her age it wouldn't have affected me the way it did at this age. I would have thought the same as my daughter bitter/sweet and moved on. At my age, I went to bed, clung to my dh and thought, that could be us in 20/30 years. Though there isn't the threat of Alzheimer in either family it is a sobering thought. That you could forget the person you spent years loving. And that person is searching for you to see them as you once did. Powerful stuff. Especially for a book and a movie.

Now I hate unhappy endings, but is there a book or movie that moved you to tears? Why?

When I sent my spirit book to an endings contest- one judge said it made her cry, but in a good way. What have you read or watched that brought tears of happiness? Why?

And here is the cover for my next Halsey brother book, Doctor in Petticoats. Enjoy!


Alice Sharpe said...

Paty -- I used to like pithy stories and movies and if there was a sad ending, that was okay. But after the year when I had cancer and chemo and all the rest, I changed. No longer did I enjoy unhappy premises, give me a happy ending and lighter fare, please. And any movie that deals with the things The Notebook deals with are dangerous territory as there is dementia in both our histories. Also, being so close to all that now with my mother puts me in contact with this condition and I hate to be the one to say this, but there are people where she resides who are talking to the wall paper and are younger than either one of us. Alzheimer's isn't age specific.

On that cheery note, I have cried at the end of movies many times, and books too, although not as much lately (that I can think of -- oh ack! if I've forgotten!) seeing as how I'm careful to prescreen what I watch. A few years ago my son practically forced me to watch Saving Private Ryan and I about died. When he started in on Black Hawk Down, I ran the other direction.

Btw, crying in a good way? That I like because it means something is touching or emotional, not necessarily gut wrenching. Like the end of Second Hand Lions -- it deals with death but in an upbeat way (plus the movie is a hoot.)

Karen Duvall said...

I have to be in a certain mood to watch a movie like that. I haven't see that one yet, probably because I heard the ending was so sad, but I did see Sparks' Message in a Bottle and didn't like it, though I don't remember why.

I like the movies that make me cry in the middle, then rejoice in the happy ending. Like Home is Where the Heart is, based on the book by Fannie Flagg. It's quirky and goofy and tugs at the heart strings while making you laugh along the way. I love those kinds of stories.

The one that destroys me every time is Steel Magnolias. Man, that's a 5 hanky film if ever there was one.

Elisabeth Naughton said...

Paty, I read The Notebook years ago and the ending had me crying. The movie didn't so much because the book was very different. I enjoyed Sparks' A Walk in the Clouds as well, but his tendency for unhappy endings really got to me and I stopped reading him (among other reasons).

Right after I got out of the hospital (like 2 days later) my mom brought me some movies to watch while I was laid up in bed at home. One was PS I Love You with Gerard Butler. I'd heard it was a good movie, but I just never watched it. Five minutes into it I knew it was not going to be the time for me to watch this movie, but I did anyway, thinking it was going to get better (for those of you who haven't seen it yet, he DIES from a brain tumor at the beginning of the movie). By the end of it the DH and I were both in tears. Not the smartest movie to watch right after your wife almost died.

These days I much prefer happy endings. My perspective has changed big time since this summer and as far as I'm concerned there's enough unhappiness in the world already...I don't need to read (or watch) it in my fiction.

Now crying in a good way is fine with long as it ends well. I cried reading Eclipse the other day because the love triangle was just heart wrenching (and I love Jacob!) but everything turned out okay, so I was okay with that cry. ;)

Lisa Leoni said...

Paty, I avoid (seriously avoid) anything without a cheery ending. I love the Notebook, but I shut it off before the ending. I always look online to read about the ending of movies that are questionable. I hate sad things. I hate crying.

Congrats on the new cover!

Elisabeth Naughton said...

Forgot to add...congrats on the new cover! When does this one release?

(and if you send me a .jpg and the deets I'll add it to the sidebar)

Deborah Wright said...

Great cover, Paty!

I have to admit, I can't remember the last time a book made me cry -- or even gave me the sniffles. Probably because I don't read those kind of books! ;-)

Movies/TV Shows, now that's another story. The most emotion wrenching movie I've ever watched is The Killing Fields -- it's an incredible movie and I'm glad I saw it, but I've never been able to make myself watch it a second time. Band of Brothers, on the other hand, never fails to get to me and I can't count the number of times I've watched it (I haven't been able to bring myself to watch Saving Private Ryan, though). A short list of other movies that brought me to tears include Beau Geste (1939 Gary Cooper version), Glory, Breaker Morant, and, don't laugh now, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan.

hmmm...I'm beginning to see a pattern. So-called romantic tearjerkers leave me mostly cold -- Love Story bored me, for instance. But give me a story about honor and sacrifice, and you've got me where it hurts!

Anonymous said...

I love/prefer a happy ending, and like Lisa, I read to make sure how movies end before I watch them. Yep, I cheat! LOL

P.S. I Love You made me not just cry, but bawl, sob, squall, etc. *sigh* I loved it. I know I cried when I watched The Notebook, but I don't really remember that movie. *in one side of the brain and out the other like a flash of lightening*

Debbie-- ROFLMAO about your Star Trek: The Wrath of Kahn comment. As a family, we watch 2 movies every Friday night and we've been going through all the Star Trek movies because there's just so darn many of them and they're safe for all ages. We just happened to watch that one the other day!! LOL I didn't cry, but we love those silly movies! My daughter was even able to understand a joke a teacher said the other day at school about "aging as fast as Spock" that NO ONE else caught, but it's because we've been watching all the movies. She LOL'd in class and was so happy that she "got it". *it's the small things in life*

As far as a book ending making me cry? I just can't think of any. Plenty of tears in the middle of books, but never at the end. After all, I do read romance. ;)

Congrats on the nice cover for Doctor in Petticoats, Paty! That's one sexy cowboy.

Genene Valleau said...

Another nice cover, Paty!

I definitely want a happy ending. Tears over that happy ending are the norm for me. Maybe that's why I like kids' movies--justice wins out and the good guys (and ladies) get their happily ever after. At least mostly.

I appreciate the tip on the Internet movie spoiler. I'll have to check that before I watch any more movies.

Paty Jager said...

Hi Ladies, I'm back from the boonies. Tink and I thought we were rehearsing for the Wizard of OZ yesterday. The cabin shook, Tink lunged for my lap(nearly shoving my laptop on the floor) and when I looked out there was dirt swirling around the building... Thank goodness the little twister moved on and the cabin stayed in place!

Alice, I learned my lesson to heed any warnings about sad endings. I didn't care for it. And I completely understand you view point. I need to see Second Hand Lions. Someone else has mentioned that movie...

Karen, It's been a long time since I watched Steel Magnolias. My dh loved Fried Green Tomatoes! Especially how the guy gets his comeuppance!

Eli, I've always been a sucker for happy endings and avoided the book because I'd heard it was sad. And I don't like war movies or shoot 'em ups. I like romantic comedies or historical dramas.

Lisa and all, thanks for the congrats on the cover. Eli, I don't have a release date yet, so I'll wait to send you the jpg and stats until I do. I don't want it hanging out forever like Outlaw did.

Debbie, I've never been a Star Wars fan. My older brother watched it religiously when we were kids, but I could never get into the whole outerspace thing. And some of the weird planets they went to... Those were good fiction writers! LOL

Becky, Same daughter said PS I Love You was a good movie- I think I'll skip watching it too!