I feel the need to vent. And I'm sorry to do it here, but I've had about enough.
Am I the only woman in America who is fed up with the constant press coverage of the Elliot Spitzer scandal?
The hubby and I have a morning routine - coffee and The Today Show while we go about getting up and ready for the day. This is literally the only time I watch TV during the day, the only time I pay a bit of attention to the news. And generally just the first half hour with the headlines and "most important" interviews. The last two weeks though, all the rage on the Today Show is this big sex scandal. First it was the NY governor who was caught in a prostitution ring. Then it was the fact he used tax payer dollars and had his tryst with the prostitute the day before Valentine's Day (and the focus was way more on the Valentine's thing rather than the tax payer dollar thing, but...whatever). Then Monday it was the Lieutenant Governor (now the new Governor) admitting he had several extramarital affairs ten years ago when he found out his wife was cheating on him (though they're still married now and are *supposedly* happy). Then TODAY I hear former NJ Governor John Corzine (who, you remember, stepped down a bit ago because his gay affair came out) has leaked to the press that he and his wife had another man in their bed with them while they were dating and into their marriage, thereby stating she's a hypocrite for rising to the aid of Spitzer's wife in the last week.
Am I the only one who's ready to say, who the hell cares?????
The sad fact is, I do care. Not about what idiots these people are (and let's face it, they are idiots. One for thinking they wouldn't get caught, two for GETTING caught, and three, for airing their dirty laundry in public), but about the constant focus on infidelity and where marriage seems to be going in this country. About the "experts" who are all over the tv and radio spouting off statistics saying humans are not meant to be monogamous and that it goes against our biological instincts, how men like Spitzer have an over-abundance of testosterone and therefore have a built-in excuse for being cheaters. About how the US Culture is "against the norm" in their view of monogomous relationships and how other cultures view sex and marriage as two different species.
This morning my running partner and I were talking about The Color Sex Test Jenna Bayley-Burke told us about at the meeting last night (which is just for fun), and in our discussion (before I even brough up any of the Spitzer stuff above), she started telling me about a massage she got a few years ago after she ran the Chicago Marathon. She'd gone in for a relaxation massage the next day and had a masseuse named Helga from Eastern Europe. Helga proceeded to explain to her that her "tension" wasn't from normal muscle aches and pains from running 26 miles, but from repressed sexual tension in her body due to the fact the American culture has strict limitations on monogamy. Of course, my running partner (happily married for over 15 yrs) told Helga to take a flying leap, then proceeded to laugh her ass off...but seriously? Is this what people think?
I'm reminded of the book sale Karen posted on the loop the other day - the one about the woman telling her husband he can have as many sexual trysts as he wants just so long as he tells her about them and submits to her "punishments". Is it no wonder fifty percent of marriages end in divorce these days and that fidelity *appears* to be the exception, not the norm?
My hubby and I have been married for 16 yrs. Every marriage has its rough patches. Some work, some don't, but no marriage is always easy. I got lucky, and I'd marry my guy again in a heartbeat. (After all, I finally have him trained...I'm not starting fresh with someone new! LOL) We've been discussing this whole thing a lot lately, especially this idea that men, especially, have this ingrained need to "spread their seed", and all I have to say is, that's bull*&#! It's easy to get bored and look to someone else - that whole 'the grass is greener on the other side thing' - but we all know it never makes the cheater happy. All it ever does is make everyone involved miserable. And that's why I have such an issue with the media putting this big emphasis on the whole NY sex scandal thing. Get over it. Move on. Stop giving these people the press they obviously want and focus on something positive.
Why do I write romance? To prove these people wrong. Happily ever after DOES exist, monogomy IS real, and contrary to what some people think...it's not just fiction.
*end of rant*
Anyone else had it with this whole thing?