This is from information I gathered at Mary Buckham’s class.
This is the list of the 12 stage of intimacy. I was surprised and pleased to realize I instinctively used these in my books, without knowing the reasoning behind them.
1) Eye to Body
2) Eye to Eye
3) Voice to Voice
4) Hand to Hand
5) Arm to Shoulder
6) Arm to Waist
7) Mouth to Mouth
8) Hand to Head
9) Hand to Body
10) Mouth to Breast
11) Hand to Genital
12) Genital to Genital
These are the stages you use when bringing your hero and heroine together through the story. You don’t have to do it in this order, but this is the order in which the woman would slowly become attracted and trust the man.
Sex creates conflict – To have sex means physical risk, to deny sex means emotional risk – thus conflict.
Doesn’t always come along in the expected way
Or at the perfect time
In fact, just the opposite happens more times than not.These are four points are what make a good book.
POINT 1 - Understand Conflict
Where one or the other must compromise
One relinquishes something dear and important
That pits one’s deepest wants and needs against another’s deepest wants and needs in each and every scene.
Because the conflicts and stakes have been raised.
Linger, dwell, focus a reader not only on the physical action of each stage, but the emotional reaction.
If you show a reader a physical description of a touch, a look, a kiss then show the impact of the action.
My next blog will go into detail about the 12 stages of intimacy.